A healthy mum mindset starts with our thoughts. It’s new year, the time for new year resolution setting, diets and detoxes. The ‘must’ get fitter, the ‘should’ eat more of direction of the mindset and asking your gorgeous self, does it really help me to change and flourish in direction? Or repeat the same mindset direction. By taking care of your self, through the mindset you choose to use, it can enable you to feed a different direction in your being, through this new year.
A healthy mum mindset solution
I’d love to fit the mould of happy new year and here’s the solution by saying, “now’s the time to get fitter and in better shape” but how about changing the new year mindset mental talk to, nows the time to become more mindful of being fitter.
Let’s create steps to clean out our gut and boost our immunity by drinking more Kombucha and be more healthier in pregnancy.
Having a healthy mum mindset, begins with our thoughts to our internal mind.
Our new year healthy mum mindset begins with our thoughts
Its new year and were bombarded with new year resolutions. Got to/should/must get fit and healthy.
Must go on a diet.
Should eat , got to eat healthier this year.
Although these are great motivators and instigators for change, just because it new year, doesn’t necessarily mean a new you.
Every day is another chance to form better habits in you.
For some it means exercising more, for others it means exercising less.
Isn’t life great at showing us the unique differences we all possess and rather than looking out there for the answers initially, ask yourself first
“What do I need to do more and less of this year?
I used to make new year resolutions such as, this year I will go swimming 3 times a week and swim 70 lengths each time. This was once a warm up to me, having spent a minimum of 2 hours most days, training as a kid.
But like our energy and attitude, life continually changes. Now being a single mum my thoughts towards what is realistically capable is
I will try to do more swimming
Putting numbers and distances to attributing achievements can be a recipe for ‘failure’ because of the unrealistic expectations of them.
Rather than seeing it as a failure, like many do take it on board your learning vessel as another lesson to grow from, and started becoming much more in tune with
Why Am I being so hard on myself?
Because the meaning of failure is negative in connotation and feeds a negative mindset that does not allow us to flourish and grow from it.
Making promises that could be broken, setting limits that are realistically out of our already busy routine, isn’t going to encourage a “I can” mindset
only
“I cant”.
Create small steps to a healthy mum mindset
Small steps create big changes through the new year time.
Without watering a new seed, with a different thought, nothing new can sprout.
Bringing your mind to your own internal thoughts, by creating the intention for resolution, is another step towards changing direction positively.
We are human here on earth to learn our lessons that we can grow from and change into an even better version of our forever fabulous selves, or continually criticise.
Ask yourself, which one you do more of?
Are new year resolutions pointless?
I stopped making new year resolutions because well that joyful saying (please note the sarcasm)
What’s the point!
The new year mindset in attitude then mirrors back
I can’t keep them, let’s just not bother.
But there’s a point of new year resolutions, just like there’s a point of intention setting in each new moon.
It can help create inner focus, to move towards a healthier path with a mindset of,
I will try,
rather than
I should.
It enables a softness of energy within that does not demean or vilify internally, but instead encourages our thoughts to be more gentle towards our wonderful, forever learning self.
It speaks from the heart, not the mind of the ego.
New year habitual healthy mum mindset
Rather than self sabotage internal mindset speech, when we don’t always ‘live up to our expectations’, using a healthy mum mindset perspective can enable us to start to understand why we reach for our unhealthy habits when we feel under stress.
Whatever that unhealthy habit is to you.
Eating the entire chocolate cake, drinking the bottle of wine, smoking the joint, getting intouch with the ex, the online shopping habits.
The endless habits, that have become a part of our crutch, when stressful situations arise.
By understanding ‘our why‘ we can become more loving towards our growing mindset mantra, at finding a different direction and ways to manage these stressors.
Emotional wellness of our why
Our why has to be bigger than our why not.
As another yoga teacher Simone Moir says in her new year online course Emotional first aid kit,
“Breathe into ease”
S.Moir
If we hadn’t made the mistakes we wouldn’t have learned why we continually chose to repeat the cycle and through time learned, how to do it differently.
We are not fixed but forever flowing with our breathe.
By encouraging a growth over fixed mindset, nothing becomes too difficult, but endlessly learning and growing.
This quote felt so true when I gave birth. The need to be on show and here there and everywhere, had no priority anymore.
Stillness brings strength and resilience, quietness can question the answers and instigate change through time, that doesn’t need words, but is shown through our actions.
Change is a small stepped staged process, that takes time, softness and love towards ourselves.
A softer new year healthy mum mindset
If we can see it, we can be it and this is the message from this blog:
Stay gentle with your thoughts, to keep strong in 2021.
By being gentle with our thoughts towards our expectations, and understanding that having these expectations of ourself, can enable a harshness of ‘can’t’ ‘must’ ‘should’ ‘never’ mindset. That these words can encourage a fixed mindset, where nothing can grow from staying stuck.
If one day you choose to lie still on the couch instead of running yourself ragged at the gym, and for example, your new year resolution was, “I’m never lying on the couch on a day I should be at the gym”
Then if it were to occur, the internal thoughts towards our sense of self, can then become self sabotaging, negative and judgmental. A cycle of negative thought pattern could then continue of ‘new year resolution failures’ in perceptions.
Rather than setting a fixed idea using words such as I: “Never”
“should”
“must,”
that, like life, have the capability to change, grow and move, isn’t going to inspire a growth mindset.
Using words and a phrase internally like
“I will try to do more and less of”
can create, if practiced regularly, through time, a gentler, more loving attitude and mindset towards your growing self.
By becoming more mindful of good mental habits that encourage more love and light and instigate strength from within, to be gentle to keep strong, a new found love for life can ignite.
I need to read and meditate more this year and be less stubborn to reach out for support that surrounds us if we can look. These are my intentions/resolutions/focus/ for the year.
What would you like to do more and less of this year, to help you feel more of a healthy mum mindset in the new year ahead?
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