How to support your pregnant partner is so key at building a new and stronger bond as parents. I carried out a social media survey and asked mums the question “How did your partner support you in pregnancy” This blog shows you quoted statements from different mum views of how to support your pregnant partner, with helpful and hindering conclusions.
- Pregnancy’s real to woman
- Whats love to you?
- How can I support holistically?
- Conclusions in supporting
- Emotional support
- Physical support
- Mental support
- How to support pregnant partner holistically
- Nurturing stronger relationships for children
- Transforming mindset towards partner
- Extra tips for you
How to support your pregnant partner when pregnancy real to the woman
Pregnancy can be a vulnerable time in a woman’s life. There are many aspects about pregnancy like the emotions changing, that can be turbulent egg shell walking times, with the highs of the nerves and hormones and the continual changing body
As woman it affects us physiologically, oh can you remember the mood swings and the highs and lows.
These changes are much more real than it can be towards our pregnant partner. One woman noted that
Whats love to you? Affects how we support our pregnant partner
Two important aspects in life and necessary to help us feel comfort, especially when we’re pregnant are, money and love.
Without these, life in a relationship can be much more tested.
But these two important aspects are rarely taught at school.
Along our journey we see what “love” is, through our experiences, by which acceptance is often gaged.
It is only when we mature and I hope truly love and respect all of us, warts and all, we can step away from the boys with their toys as woman and recognise the need for maturity, consistency, accountability, and responsibility in a partner.
But it took me becoming a mum to really understand this.
The checklist is high now, because being on my own six years has really shaken me soulfully and I now comprehend what ‘love and support’ is
Remember your mum olive branch
For some love is
While others its
All real raw angles of what and how love can support our life and what we learn about when looking for emotional support in pregnancy.
All of which can affect our mental, emotional, physical health. Especially when the birth of baby due date looms and what we feel is best for our family.
How can I support my pregnant partner holistically?
This quote sums up holistic support and love in its finest, rarest, rawest, real hardship moments, that life can bring
My partner did…….
Conclusions in supporting
The conclusions from all the comments and the question I asked mum’s:
“How did your partner support you in pregnancy“
Came from feedback from varied social forums. I received a total of 88 comments. Very much appreciated guys thank you.
Some answers genuinely brought loving tears, at how lucky these woman are to have such comfort and love through pregnancy
Others left me wondering why are you together?
And the rest left me howling with laughter. Proper belly style laughing.
But they’re all based on ‘love and relationships’
“How did your partner support you in pregnancy?”
Had a theme
They could be split into three areas of support
- Mental
- Physical
- Emotional
These support systems needed in life as a whole but particularly important in pregnancy are very interconnected and affect one another if not fulfilled.
I decided to show, from the answers received, the helpful and the hindering ways you can help your pregnant partner to maybe ignite a lightbulb moment in another, to help them become more aware of how they can support their pregnant partner.
Emotional support
Emotional support especially in pregnancy is so needed. Pregnant woman’s feeling are highjacked by the hormones and body changes.
It can be wild time feeling like your tiptoeing tenderly.
Helping your partner feel better with these changes by the words we use and the actions we do, can be tricky, because every sense is heightened.
Encouraging your pregnant partner to express how they feel and being a listener, can really fill up your pregnant partners emotional cup.
For some the changes in pregnancy are hard and for others it’s the bees bollocks.
But every pregnancy is different and can create contrasting perceptions with so many mixed feelings within.
Just being there emotionally to just listen can really help a pregnant woman to express how they feel.
By offloading to you, it can create feeling better and that they’re not alone.
These are some of the comments pregnant mums said when asked “How did your partner support you in pregnancy?
Helped them emotionally
Hindering emotionally
Physical support in pregnancy as a partner
As your pregnant partner grows and so can the aches particularly the back. So does your need as a partner to be the extra hands.
Physical household tasks like:
- Cleaning
- Cooking
- School run
- Shopping
Can be a lifeline in pregnancy, especially in third trimester and really greatly appreciated for your pregnant partner.
Check out these helpful comments
Hindering physically:
Mental support
Mental support is very much tied in with emotional support there isn’t one without the other, they are interconnected.
I found a great piece of writing, that describes it beautifully.
“A good way to think about mental and emotional health is like a tag team. Mental health refers to your ability to process information. Emotional health, on the other hand, refers to your ability to express feelings which are based upon the information you have processed” Here is the full article https://www.webmdhealthservices.com/2017/07/12/the-emotional-and-mental-aspects-of-well-being/
With this in mind highlighting how radiant your partner looks can really support your pregnant partner mentally.
Helpful mental comments
Unhelpful for your pregnant partner:
How to support pregnant partner holistically
When all these support needs are met these are some of the responses that were expressed as helpful for your pregnant partner:
Unhelpful for your pregnant partner:
Nurturing stronger relationships for children
A saying I often reiterate to Seb, my nearly 6 year old
“There’s always another way”
Because although Seb is my son and i’m a single mum. He’s also a growing, endlessly learning light of a boy, who will one day be a man and have intimate very different needed relationships.
These future relationships are typically based on and similar to the relationships normalised as we develop.
How children grow and learn is based on experiences at home, school, park, friends etc which all nurture a sense of character and affect change and influence in their growing life.
The only aspect I have control over as a mum, is who I let in our home and my reaction.
Transforming mindset towards partner
Sacrifice in pregnancy and parenting is key.
Venting an anger with hostility onto a partner isn’t going to help a child learn about loving nurturing relationships directly.
Being mature and able to acknowledge that without the beautiful meeting and relationship, there wouldn’t be this incredible child, that you’ve both helped create.
Parents share a deep endless love, because of what has been created together, your amazing child.
Love and hate are needed to know both. The reaction towards the relationship, has to change.
Think about the awesome baby you’ve helped create as parents and remember what helps you as parents to feel confident, strong, safe and reassured, will shine out in your energy towards your baby and support them to grow out well and flourish.
Treating your pregnant partner holistically will support you all, in your journey ahead as parents.
Extra tips for you to support your pregnant partner
Its the little things in life we cherish as we grow.
Asking these questions below can support your pregnant partner even fuller:
Would you like a massage?
Will I look for prenatal classes for us to do together?
What can I do more of, to help you?
These kind of questions will encourage easier communication and a stronger bond together in pregnancy and as you grow into parenting.
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